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Wedding day advice from real brides and grooms

by Hanami Dream | 15, September, 2014 | blog, tips

The peak of the wedding season may be slowing down but there are still plenty of couples looking forward to forthcoming nuptials and planning weddings in the coming months. So big congratulations to you if you have recently got engaged.

To help you out, here are 10 top wedding day tips (and secrets) for any newly engaged couples on how to enjoy your special day. Don’t just take our word for it – this is advice from married couples that they found invaluable for the day (or in the build up and preparations).

1. Eat the day like eating an elephant.
Its big so eat it slowly and enjoy every bit!
Geraldine, Oxfordshire

2. Choose your team well.
Just the same as if you were putting together a project team at work, the people you choose to have around you at your wedding are crucial. So pick the bridesmaid that will keep you calm when you are stressed, offer advice when needed, and won’t complain when you ask them to make favours the night before the wedding!
Helen, Oxfordshire

3. Have a trial run.
Make sure you have a trial with your hair dresser and make up artist before the big day. It was much better to make decisions about how I wanted to look before the big day. Plus I thoroughly recommend having a full set of fake eyelash extensions if you’ve got the patience to have them all applied one by one. They were so worth the effort as I didn’t need to wear mascara on the day (which also avoided any tears ruining my make up) plus they lasted for most of the honeymoon too, so my eyes still looked great in photos even on make up free days on the beach and by the pool.
Nicola, Oxfordshire

4. Eat a hearty breakfast.
Make sure you eat little and often and remember that breakfast is the most important meal of the day! Not necessarily a mad traditional British cooked breakfast with everything from devilled kidneys to stuffed quail, as this may give you more than butterflies — but just something filling that will keep you going, like porridge. It can be an awfully long time from when you eat in the morning until your ‘wedding breakfast’ in the afternoon, and there’s a lot of demanding stuff to get through in between!
Matt, Cambridgeshire

5. Keep your guests fed and watered.
Wedding photos take a lot longer than you would expect, especially to get those perfect personal shots of you and your partner which you will treasure in the future, so make sure you are keeping your guests fed, watered and entertained during this period so you can relax.
David, Oxfordshire

6. Delegate.
Have great attendants that you know and trust. Then delegate as many tasks on the day as possible to your trusted ushers, best men and bridesmaids. This leaves you free to really enjoy the day rather than worrying about the little things that crop up.
Simon, Oxfordshire

7. Spend time as a couple.
Build in a private moment after the actual wedding, to enjoy and savour a moment just for the two of you. For our wedding, we had the ceremony about 10 miles from the reception venue, we arranged a vintage chauffeur-driven car to take us from the wedding itself to the reception. The ancient Model T Ford we had could only go at about 25 miles an hour at most, so we had a lovely 25-30 minutes alone on the way to the reception, during which we shared a really good bottle of champagne! Looking back, that was one of our favourite moments.
Melanie, Cambridgeshire

8. Utilise friends and family.
I’m thrilled that so many of our friends and family were actively involved in some way or another – either via a specific role we asked them to perform, or by using their skills to provide flowers, cake, makeup, cars…it made it all so personal. Ask around and you may be amazed at the hidden talents your friends have!
Helen, Oxfordshire

9. Build in comfort breaks.
Honestly the best advice I was given was how to tackle going to the toilet as a bride. I had an amazing dress with a lovely long train and I had no idea how I was going to manoeuvre the dress around the toilet. Plus, whilst my bridesmaids were my best friends, there were some tasks I didn’t want to pass on to them on the day. How was I going to be able to do my business without ruining the dress or my dignity? Luckily a sage friend suggested the ‘reverse wee’. What a revelation – instead of sitting with your back to the cistern, you straddle the toilet and face the cistern. Hence the train and your dress do not have to be hoicked up or bunched up around the back of the toilet. Genius!
Nicola, Oxfordshire

10. Don’t rush away.
Whilst the idea of tossing a bouquet into a crowd of well-wishers, stepping into a flash car at the end of your reception and being whisked to the airport to start a fabulous tropical honeymoon sounds beguiling, our advice would be: don’t go away on honeymoon straight after your reception. Spend a relaxed day with a few select friends and family the day after your wedding, and *then* go away. A lot of people feel that the wedding day itself rushes, so this gives you quality time with the people you like most in your life. Anyone who was still around the day after our wedding was invited to a picnic. We didn’t supply any food, people just brought their own stuff, and we all sat around in the countryside and had some proper time with our mates with nice food and drink. It was like a simpler, more intimate version of the wedding day, with none of the stress or calls on your time.
Melanie, Cambridgeshire

Please contact Hanami Dream if you’d like to share any tips or insights from your wedding.

7 rainbow inspired tips for organising a special occasion

by Hanami Dream | 15, August, 2014 | blog, tips

“Somewhere over the rainbow, skies are blue,
And the dreams that you dare to dream, really do come true”

This month marks the 75th anniversary of the film release of the Wizard of Oz. With the themes of this story as our inspiration, we look at 7 tips for how to follow your own yellow brick road when planning a special occasion.

1. red – follow your heart
The colour red often signifies passion, energy and taking action. What better place to start when planning your special occasion than with what your heart desires. You can take inspiration and guidance from many different areas but make sure your event is personal. List out the things you really want to have at the occasion and what would make you happy. Think about how you want it to look, sound and feel to you and your guests (even taste and smell like too!).
Any theme can be adjusted to suit your occasion. For example, did you know that in the Wonderful Wizard of Oz book by L. Frank Braum in 1900, the shoes that Dorothy wears are actually silver? However, most people associate Dorothy with red shoes. Why? Because the film makers of the 1939 film adaptation decided to take advantage of the revolutionary use of new Technicolor. So you can tailor any occasion so that it brings your dreams to life.

2. orange – good communication
Orange is associated with optimism and communication. With this in mind, the next part of the planning process should focus on being able to communicate your vision with others. Once you have the plan of what you’d like your event to be like, share it with the people that are going to help you bring it to life.
Maybe you are involving an event planner, multiple suppliers or calling on favours from friends. Think about who needs to be involved, what they can offer, how it will come together, as well as where and when the event will take place. Also make sure you look at what budget is available and how much everything will cost.
At this stage, good relationship building is important and these friends (and colleagues) will help you along your journey. Just like in the Wizard of Oz when Dorothy’s new friends give her support and the encouragement she needs to seek out the Wizard.

3. yellow – have courage
Whilst yellow is often seen as a happy colour, it sometimes depicts cowardice. There will probably be some tough decisions to make when planning a big special occasion. Perhaps the reality of your budget means you have to rein in a few of your plans, or other people’s involvement means compromising on some thoughts, or maybe who you want to invite and have on your guest list causes headaches. So make sure you have the right people with you along the way to help with these difficult decisions.
For Dorothy, she sets her sights on finding the Wizard and stays focused on this end outcome. Her vision is clear, others join her and they stay on track despite facing obstacles along the way.

4. green – be resourceful
Don’t get green with envy. If there’s something that you can’t afford or can’t source, then consider making it yourself. Be self sufficient and do it yourself. Be resourceful to overcome set backs and perhaps consider different options.
Think about things you could borrow from friends, hire from suppliers or buy second hand rather than buying them new. There are lots of free local recycling websites to source products, online auction sites and car boot sales if you need to be clever with your budget. Or if you’re feeling crafty there’s lots of inspiration on sites like Pinterest on how to make event decorations like fan bunting, pinwheels, pom-poms or paper flowers (which are cheaper and last longer than real flowers). Involve your friends and family in making stationery as an ice breaker for different people to meet before the special occasion.
Take the lead from the main characters from the Wizard of Oz who all doubted their self reliance. They didn’t realise that they actually possessed the things that they were searching for all along.

5. blue – use support
The colour blue is said to be calming and instil a sense of peace, trust and loyalty. Keep this in mind when you are in the throes of planning your event.
At the beginning and end of your planning time, there will be a flurry of activity needed but in between it may feel like a lull of planning and decision making.
Focus on the end goal of what you want to achieve so you don’t get swept along or side tracked with irrelevant ideas. Remember that there are other things in your life as well as planning a special day and don’t lose perspective on everything else.
The support of your family and friends will be important. After all, there’s no place like home.

6. indigo – trust your head
Indigo is often thought of as the colour of idealism. However make sure you use your brains to not only visualise your dream but also to trust your intuition. Know when to include realism in your decisions too. Maybe you haven’t seen a second cousin for over 10 years that your parents think you should invite to your event but you don’t really know them. If you’d rather invite another close friend than your long lost relative then you may need the courage to address the situation with your parents to explain how you feel.
Perhaps use Dorothy’s friends (the Scarecrow, the Cowardly Lion and the Tin Woodman) as a guide to making decisions – what is your head telling you to do, do I have the courage to do it and, most importantly, how do I feel about it? Follow what your gut is telling you to do. Dorothy ventured in to the unknown and learnt to rely on her instincts and to trust her intuition to guide her on her journey.

7. violet – enjoy your creation
Don’t be a shrinking violet – let your imagination go wild! Inject personal touches in to your special occasion and you’ll be able to blend together families, friends, traditions, cultures and lots of creativity. Then enjoy it. Your earlier planning and communication with your suppliers will pay off now. You’ve put in a lot of effort, so now is the time to spend with your guests relaxing and making the most of your celebration. If you have involved a planner they can manage the special occasion for you which would mean you don’t have to worry about all the fine details on the day. Capture it too, so you have lasting memories of what you’ve achieved.
In the Wizard of Oz, the main characters all get what they really desired (a heart, brains, courage and to be able to return home) but they also ended up with much more than they first wished for.

Make your special occasion unique and tailored to meet your needs. Have the confidence to follow your own yellow brick road and your dreams can come true.

See how we went over the rainbow with our Wizard of Oz party.